December already! Weeks ago I heard the first warning of Christmas.….the dreaded sound of Noddy Holder from Slade asking me if I was ‘hanging up a stocking on the wall?’
‘So here it is merry Christmas ……………..Everybody’s having fun’
Everybody’s having fun’. If only. It is the season of goodwill. Yes, time for friends and family, good food, parties, exchanging presents and being able to forget about work and problems for a few days. However I wonder if our expectations are not too high. We want it to be perfect. After all, Christmas is really for children. However there is a darker side to it bringing some anxiety. The Samaritans, recognise the two weeks either side of Christmas as their busiest time of the year.
I am Susan Chan, change and motivational coach, and encourage you to identify the three common stresses at this time of year:
- Stress and anxiety
I heard a mum saying that her three year old was getting a ‘Silver Cross Toy Pram’ for Christmas….at £320! Wow. It was easier when ‘all you wanted for Christmas was your two front teeth!
The media bombard us for months about Christmas. At midnight on the 25th they have moved on to New Year and a week later it is all about losing weight and going on a holiday! Have a great day, but don’t put yourself under financial pressure for months or even years. ‘Look to the future now………………….It’s only just begun’
The kids have been up since 04.15 and been feeding on chocolate and fizzy juice. They are higher than the Eiffel Tower! Dad opened the first beer at 09.20. Mum is frazzled. The turkey is still frozen and the tree lights have blown! Relax, the Master Card Bill will not come for four weeks. However we can do a lot to overcome the December blues and as Elton John said, ‘step into Christmas’.
So how can you survive the final two weeks leading to Christmas?
Decide on a budget for food, booze and presents. Post it up on a wall so you can see it.
Start your planning now.
Live within your budget.
If folk are coming to your house, delegate. Who brings what? Who does what?
Get all the taxi/car driving duties sorted out.
Talk with your loved ones about expectations. Get the reality check in place.
Compromises must be made. Everybody cannot be happy all the time.
Track down the presents early. Amazon is great but don’t leave it for last minute delivery. You are just putting pressure on yourself.
Be aware of the early sign of emotional stress. (Sleeping problems, anxiety, food and drink excesses, arguing)
Learn relaxation techniques to help your mind and body.
Practise Mindfulness to really know what ‘s happening.
Buy some treats for yourself.
If all else fails then have the telephone number of the United Nations peace keeping agency on speed dial if WW3 breaks out!
You can get help and support over this time and set yourself on a new path with promise and vigour.
Remember to have a great time!