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Happier Children. Free from stress and anxiety.

As adults we have days when we are anxious and having it tough. Many of us have developed the resources to pull us through. So what can we do as parents when our children start to show the same symptoms of unhappiness and anxiety? As I write this, children around the country are about to return to school. It is an anxious time for them and their parents.  There have been many recent newspaper reports about bullying and cyberbullying. Anxiety problems are becoming increasingly common in children, with 24% of 5 to 14 year old children showing symptoms.

The medical model of pills and treatment is not often appropriate nor realistically achievable. So what can you do as a parent? A search of the web will reveal some really interesting programes available to download.  We use Mindfulness and CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) The NHS defines CBT :   ‘Cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) is a talking therapy that can help you manage your problems by changing the way you think and behave. CBT cannot remove your problems, but can help you manage them in a more positive way. It encourages you to examine how your actions can affect how you think and feel. Talking and changing your behaviour can change how you think (cognitive) and what you do (behaviour). This can make you feel better about life.’ Also the NHS says: ‘CBT has been shown to be particularly helpful at tackling problems such as anxiety, depression, eating disorders and drug misuse.’

We work with parents (and occasionally children) to help them to challenge anxious thoughts, face their fears and plan for the future. A recent report  indicated that children, whose parents had full training were twice as likely to show reduced levels of anxiety, when compared with traditional pill/ counselling treatment. A Millenium Cohort Study invloving 6,500, 7 year old children who had a very sedentary lifestyle concluded that they experienced higher levels of emotional stress, anxiety and depression than those children who were more active. There appears to be a correlation between well- being and physical activity. Anxiety is a normal part of childhood and we have all gone through tough times, which tend to be temporary and harmless. However  children who suffer anxiety disorder tend to experience fear, nervousness, shyness, avoidance, sleeplessness, clinginess and emotional numbing.
We all have the gift of creating absolutely anything. There’s no limit to what we can do or be.

So what can you do?  Pay attention to their feelings.  Stay calm when the child becomes anxious. Practise breathing and relaxation techniques. Never punish mistakes or lack of progress. Avoid belittling the child when he/ she fails to take part in an event or holds back. Modify your expections and plan for difficult times. (e.g. take more time to get your child to school). Be aware of some of the stresses that your child may experience, school or on social media sites.

There is no doubt that Mindfulness practice can help children to become calmer and moe focused. It is a natural process that can be practised by children from a young age. Even before a child learns language, they can see things as they are. All actions are spontaneous. They laugh, cry and sleep. They can instantly let go of the immediate past and move on.

As the child  grows and develops he/ she can lose the sense of focused calm and their mind may lack the attention to ‘stay with it’. This is where mindfulness exercises can give the child relief from an over active mind.  This is where we can help either the child directly or teach the skills to the parents. We have a  course on Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) which is validated through  the Mindfulness Association as well as individual sessions for the parent or child.

Give us a call for more detail and information.

Posted in: Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, Educational Motivation, Happiness, Mindfulness, Stress Management
August 30th, 2013 Share On Twitter Share on Twitter Share On Facebook Share on Facebook

Creative Solutions to Combat Seasonal Affective Disorder

As autumn approaches (mind you, it seems as if we have gone straight from spring to autumn!) we are seeing more clients anxious about seasonal mood change. Is it real? We feel better when the sun shines. We tend to be more cheerful and energetic. From October onwards we really start to react to fewer hours of daylight. Mary *, a client,  experienced a variety of symptoms including anxiety, sleep problems, lack of energy, loss of appetite or over eating, loss of interest in physical contact and being more prone to illness. It can affect any of us, although women report it more than men, and it tends to be more of a feature in the under 40’s. There is well documented research on the causes and triggers of SAD, as well as many strands of treatment.

As a motivation therapist and life coach, Susan Chan uses a ‘3 step programme’ to make a difference.  A programme would include:

  1. Mindfulness Relaxation exercises – involving breathing and visualisation
  2. Light therapy and structured Relaxing Exercise.

Since Susan uses a ‘toolbox’ of holistic therapies, sometimes other programmes may be introduced. For Mary*, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) was also useful.

(* not real name)


Posted in: Cognitive Behavioural Therapy
September 25th, 2012 Share On Twitter Share on Twitter Share On Facebook Share on Facebook


Personal and Business Coaching

Essential Principles for Personal and Business Development.   Ian Geddes and Susan Chan

We find an increasing number of harassed and stressed clients coming to us. To the outsider they may seem successful. It could be the nice car, the ‘good job’ or the nice house. However it may have come at a price. We are amazed by the number of people that we know who seem to be drawn deeper and deeper into their work.   ‘I go in a little early and stay until my desk is clear. Then I can go home without thinking about work’. We hear variations on this all the time. Our home is close to the Headquarters of a Council. The car park fills up from 07.00. (You may wonder why we are up at that time!…….walking the dogs!), and will often see some of the same cars there 12 hours later. Residents of Kilmarnock can sleep well knowing that the employees work long and hard for them. We work with individual clients who need to establish that elusive ‘work/ life balance’, as well as clients who see us as part of a company programme. Men and women who ‘burn out’, struggle both at home and at work. So what can we do? We use a variety of techniques, from Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP), relaxation and Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction (MBSR).

NLP is a sophisticated and effective force of change. It allows you to understand what makes you tick, how you feel, how you think and how you make sense of life around you. When you feel as if you are swimming through treacle, NLP awareness training can give you a magical  ‘aha’ moment. ‘Neuro’ relates to what is happening in our minds. ‘Linguistic’ refers to language and how we use it, and ‘Programming’ is about those persistent negative patterns of behaviour that we repeat without learning. Once you open up those channels in your mind, you will be able to make those decision, solve the problems, learn and get the results you want. You can combine this with techniques enabling you to relax and de-stress yourself. NLP is generally recognised as the key tool for personal and organisational change. You will find renewed energy so that you can cope with the work/ life balance that you want.

For several years we have also been promoting ‘Mindfulness’. This is now the ‘latest hot’  technique. We work with individual clients, small groups and business groups. We run workshops /experiential courses on MBSR as well as individual bespoke NLP and MBSR sessions.

We have written many articles on our Blog pages covering NLP, dealing with stress and Mindfulness , and you may find it useful to check back.

Give us a call so that you can chat with us and work out the solutions to your personal and business challenges. You actually have all the answers within yourself!





Posted in: Coaching, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, Mindfulness, Neuro Linguistic Programming, Stress Management
June 26th, 2012 Share On Twitter Share on Twitter Share On Facebook Share on Facebook

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What happens during a clinical hypnotherapy session?

By Ian Geddes and Susan Chan

Our clients seem to be fascinated about the thought of being ‘hypnotised’. What happens during a session? We are clinical hypnotherapists using the subconscious mind to enable you to make the changes that you want to make. We are registered with the General Hypnotherapy Council and follow a code of professional practice. Do not confuse what we do with the stage show. There is nothing to be alarmed about. To understand the word, ‘hypnotherapy’, perhaps it may be helpful to think of you being in a stare of deep relaxation. At all times you remain aware of what is happening and your mind will keep you safe. You remain in control. So what happens? Once you have made an appointment with Susan or Ian, you will have time to establish rapport. We need to listen to what you are telling us. Often the initial phobia, confidence issue, addiction or concern will lead to deeper discussion and understanding. We note that you want to make that change. At this stage we discuss the possible programme. Hypnosis often combined with other modern psychological techniques (such as NLP/ Mindfulness/ CBT/EFT/EMS) is natural, quick and permanent. The number of sessions varies and is assessed accordingly and this will be agreed.

When you are in a state of deep relaxation, (a hypnotic state) the subconscious part of your brain is ready to be reprogrammed in a healthier or more desirable way. Remember, you choose to accept or reject the suggestions to allow that change to take place. It is your mind and you are always in control. There are several approached that we can use. We call upon all your senses. Sight. Taste. Touch.  Sound . Smell.  In the relaxed state you can visualise, imagine, look back, and look forward to the change in the future. You can break away from the old habits, addictions, tackle issues from insomnia to a lack of confidence and stress.

The power of the mind and the power of positive thinking, when reprogrammed can allow you to make the change that you want.  A session will come to a conclusion  by bringing you safely back from your state of deep relaxation. You will remember everything that happened and feel relaxed, so calm and good.

Sessions should not be dissected and over analysed by you. Hypnosis works. Usually you will be given some ‘homework’!

So if you want to make that change, take that decision to make the first step and act on it today by contacting us.

Posted in: Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, Hynotherapy, Neuro Linguistic Programming
September 22nd, 2011 Share On Twitter Share on Twitter Share On Facebook Share on Facebook

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