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Steps you can start to take today to improve your work/life balance

Steps you can start to take today to improve your work/life balance

Ian Geddes and Susan Chan

Most of us choose to work. Most of us have to work to achieve the lifestyle we aspire to. Again for many of us we will work for a large part of our lives. There are many positive benefits to working including social, our relationships, mental, physical, emotional and financial. For some of us if we are in a good job which we enjoy, we benefit in all these areas. However when we are in a job that we don’t enjoy and don’t find a work/ life balance, we experience negative effects in all of these areas.

What are the risks associated with an imbalance? There are four key areas to consider:

  • Your health.
  • Your family
  • Your friendships
  • Your effectiveness

‘…never get so busy making a living that you forget to make a life…’ source unknown

Our identity is often defined by our work, so it is important that we enjoy it and find a suitable balance between life and work.

So what can you start to do today to make that improvement? Here are a few work/life balance tips that may help you to manage your life more effectively:

These themes can be read in more detail in our book, ’A Mindful Compassionate Guide to a Happier Life’. We also have a bespoke course that tackles the challenges of gaining work/ life balance

Identify your priorities in life. The things you find important in life will become apparent to you when you change the way you think about your life. Life is very precious. Make time for the thing you really love and value. These things will be different for everyone, but they will all have the same result…. a happier you!

Make a plan. Once you have identified your highest priorities in life, make a plan for action. Make sure that you incorporate your management of time. Time is a finite resource, we have a certain amount and that is it. So really it is your most valuable asset and the thing that should be at the front of your mind when it comes to achieving a good work/life balance. Prioritise and manage time more effectively, allowing you to make time for yourself.

Dealing with stress and learning how to relax. Stress is real. It affects us emotionally and physically. Our blogs regularly cover what you can do to cut the causes of stress as well as taking steps to reduce the damage that it can cause.

Technology can have a positive or negative effect on your life. You need to decide the right time to address work voice mails, text messages and emails. Being ‘plugged-in’ all of the time erodes your personal life and it can hamper your effectiveness at work if you are constantly checking emails and answering phone calls. However, technology can offer the advantage of working from home to help both your personal and professional responsibilities. It is a balancing act.

Reflection activity: how to manage your lifestyle (adapted from the book, ’A Mindful Compassionate Guide to a Happier Life’ by Ian Geddes and Susan Chan

  • Take control. Make decisions and gain some power.
  • Never take your personal life and family for granted.
  • Be choosy. Adjust your work and life balance according to their value to you and not just what your employer demands.
  • Know your limits. Talk them over at work, after all it is only work!
  • Review your situation every 3 months. Review your priorities.
  • Allow space in your life. Stop and relax. Dedicate time for yourself every day.
  • Contemplate whether it is really all about money?
  • Don’t follow routines that are only there through habit. Allow your brain to be re-programmed to challenge these and find out what would improve situations, allowing you to thrive.
  • Accept that your life has many parts and be mindful towards them all.
  • Don’t be addicted to your work? What are you trying to avoid?
  • Be unavailable by telephone, pager or email for a part of each day and for at least one day a week. This will allow you to appreciate all aspects of your life.
  • Recognise that you need to look after yourself. Only then can you look after others. If you are healthy in mind, body and spiritually, then you will be happier. Show compassion
  • Practise relaxation, self-care and mindfulness with self-compassion every day
  • Remember you can say no! Why should you do something you don’t want or like?
  • Re-evaluate your perspective on life.
  • Remember the most that you can ever give is 100%.

 

Posted in: Coaching, Happiness, Ian Geddes, Living the dream, Relaxation, Stress Management, Work/ life balance
January 11th, 2017 Share On Twitter Share on Twitter Share On Facebook Share on Facebook


Looking good! Feeling good! by Susan Chan

OK, the resolutions have been made. 2016 will be the year to get your weight under control. I’m Susan Chan, I work as a motivational consultant, Mindfulness and life coach, in Ayrshire and beyond. I frequently get asked what are the main things that make a difference.  There are so many tips that can help you get on track. Don’t ever under estimate the power of your subconscious mind! Like most women, I love to look good, feel good and to be energised. So how do you remain motivated? Here is a list of 15 tried, tested and successful tips to have you in top condition for 2016!

  • Determine your goals. Keep a diary. Why do you want to gain control of your weight? Write down your target weight. And the time frame. Keep a note of your progress.
  • Recognise interim steps of success. Have plenty of these ‘little steps’. Reward yourself every time you hit a target. It can be a massage or a pair of shoes. It does not matter as long as it is something that you love. (No, not chocolate!)
  • For every pound or kilo you lose, put an equivalent weight of sugar, or books into a bag. Lift this up regularly! Feels good. When you are going through a bad patch, this helps you to recognise how far you have come.
  • Some people like to keep a note of all the subtle changes in the body, their weight, hip, bust or waist statistics. A record of this will show how far you have come, giving you the motivation to keep on.
  • Search through your wardrobe and find a ‘dress’ in what will be your target weight!  Now imagine what it will be like to wear it again. If you don’t have such a dress, go out and buy one in your ‘dream’ size. Keep one of your old ‘sacks’. You know that you will never need to wear it again.
  • Tell your loved ones in no uncertain way that you want and expect their support.
  • Realise that not every day will be successful. Don’t beat yourself up. Just get on with a new day. After all it’s a new day.
  • Search through the box of photos. Select a few images that remind you of good times…..when you felt good and looked good. Pick out an image when you did not look your best. Use it to remind you how far you have moved towards your target.
  • Take time to think about what you are eating. You can eat really well. Plan in advance your intake. Don’t punish yourself by denying all the little treats. Have some, but in moderation!
  • By all means go to a gym if that is your thing, but really all you need to do is walk a little more or take part in a gentle workout in your home.
  • Keep in your diary details of people that you admire with success stories to tell. Avoid the shock unrealistic articles in some of the more sensational magazines.
  • You can have a ‘buddy’, life or motivation coach to keep you focussed.
  • Avoid negative people. They can only drag you down. Be aware of those who are jealous of you and your success. Sometimes you need to keep your inner thoughts safe from such people.
  • Continue to reward yourself as you tick off the targets. Possibly a new hairstyle or manicure. The new you is now emerging.
  • Continue to visualise the new, healthy you. You look good, you feel good and you have lots of energy!

Motivation coaches and therapists can empower you to make these positive changes for 2016. It could be weight control, learning how to relax or gain the confidence to tackle your resolutions, to feel and look good. Check our free relaxation and mindfulness MP3s or make contact with Susan at 07980849321.

Posted in: Coaching, Confidence, Happiness, Hynotherapy, Living the dream, Motivation, Weight Control
December 15th, 2015 Share On Twitter Share on Twitter Share On Facebook Share on Facebook


Work- Life Balance with Susan Chan and Ian Geddes

Lifestyle surveys identify work life balance as the number one concern. When that balance is wrong then you have a problem.

Burn out. Overwork.  Stress. Ill health. Depression. Sleeplessness. Relationships. Performance.

Living the Dream. How to manage your lifestyle.
Take control. Make decisions and gain some power
Never take your personal life and family for granted. Complete this simple task. Make a list of all the things that are important in your life. Now attempt to place them in order of importance to you
Be choosy. Do not try to balance work and life. Adjust according to their value to you

So where lies the problem? Know your limits. if you are concerned about your work life balance then what can you do about it?
Review your situation every 4 months. Review your priorities
Allow space in your life. Stop and relax. Dedicate time for yourself every day

  • Have you actually accepted a pattern out of habit? You do not need to accept that. Allow your brain to be re-programmed to accept that your life is in many parts.
  • Do you have an addiction to work? What are you trying to avoid?
  • Be unavailable for a part of each day and for at least one day a week, to appreciate all aspects of your life.
  • Recognise that you need to look after yourself. Only then can you look after others. If you are healthy in mind, body and spiritually, then you will be happier.
  • Practise relaxation, self-hypnosis and mindfulness every day Remember you can say no! Why should you do something you don’t want or like?

Re-evaluate your perspective on life. Give yourself a regular check up by completing the ‘Wheel of Life’, every few months. Establish where you are and where you want to be.
Remember the most that you can ever give is 100%
What can you do  this month. Make an action plan. Remember the little steps add up to make the big leap.

You can get the balance right. How to manage your time. To focus on your priorities. To ‘de-clutter’. To change bad habits. To regain control.

The rewards make it worth the time and commitment to take far more care of your self. as the advert says, ‘you’re worth it!’

It’s your life and your balance. You have to do it your way. We can help you.

Excepts taken from ‘Living the Dream….The secret of being happy’, by Susan Chan and Ian Geddes


Wheel of Life analysis:

Coaching: Present situation: self analysis
On a scale of 1 to 10 (1 being poor and 10 being fully achieved/ happy], grade each of the categories below, as they are at
this moment.

  • Social/ Leisure
  • Personal Growth and Development
  • Marriage/ Partner
  • Spiritual
  • Health and Well Being
  • Relationships, Friends and
  • Family
  • Wealth, Job and Money
  • Careers/ Job Satisfaction
  • Outlook in Life/ Attitude
  • Physical Environment/
  • Home

Total Score /100                                                    Date


• How has this changed since the last time you completed the chart?
• How do you feel about your life as you review this sheet?
• Which elements are you most happy with?
• Prioritise. Which elements would you like to improve?
• What steps can you start to make today to make those changes?
• What would a score of 10 feel like?
• How would you describe your work/ Life balance?

Posted in: Coaching, Confidence, Happiness, Living the dream, Mindfulness, Motivation, Relaxation
December 1st, 2015 Share On Twitter Share on Twitter Share On Facebook Share on Facebook


Tips to remain motivated to look good and feel good

OK, the resolutions have been made. 2015 will be the year to get your weight under control. I’m Susan Chan, I work as a motivational consultant and life coach, in Ayrshire and beyond. I frequently get asked what are the main things that make a difference.  There are so many tips that can help you get on track. Don’t ever under estimate the power of your subconscious mind! Like most women, I love to look good, feel good and be energised. So how do you remain motivated? Here is a list of 15 tried, tested and successful tips to have you in top condition for the spring!

  • Determine your goals. Keep a diary. Why do you want to gain control of your weight? Write down your target weight. And the time frame. Keep a note of your progress.
  • Recognise interim steps of success. Have plenty of these ‘little steps’. Reward yourself every time you hit a target. It can be a massage or a pair of shoes. It does not matter as long as it is something that you love. (No, not chocolate!)
  • For every pound or kilo you lose, put an equivalent weight of sugar, or books into a bag. Lift this up regularly! Feels good. When you are going through a bad patch, this helps you to recognise how far you have come.
  • Some people like to keep a note of all the subtle changes in the body, their weight, hip, bust or waist statistics. A record of this will show how far you have come, giving you the motivation to keep on.
  • Search through your wardrobe and find a ‘dress’ in what will be your target weight!  Now imagine what it will be like to wear it again. If you don’t have such a dress, go out and buy one in your ‘dream’ size. Keep one of your old ‘sacks’. You know that you will never need to wear it again.
  • Tell your loved ones in no uncertain way that you want and expect their support.
  • Realise that not every day will be successful. Don’t beat yourself up. Check your visuals, and get on with a new day.
  • Search through the box of photos. Select a few images that remind you of good times…..when you felt good and looked good. Pick out an image when you did not look your best. Use it to remind you how far you have moved towards your target.
  • Take time to think about what you are eating. You can eat really well. Plan in advance your intake. Don’t punish yourself by denying all the little treats. Have some, but in moderation!
  • By all means go to a gym if that is your thing, but really all you need to do is walk a little more or take part in a gentle workout in your home.
  • Keep in your diary details of people that you admire with success stories to tell. Avoid the shock unrealistic articles in some of the more sensational magazines.
  • You can have a ‘buddy’, life or motivation coach to keep you focussed.
  • Avoid negative people. They can only drag you down. Be aware of those who are jealous of you and your success. Sometimes you need to keep your inner thoughts safe from such people.
  • Continue to reward yourself as you tick off the targets. Possibly a new hairstyle or manicure. The new you is now emerging1
  • Continue to visualise the new, healthy you. You look good, you feel good and you have lots of energy!

Motivation coaches and therapists can empower you to make these positive changes for 2015. It could be weight control, learning how to relax or gain the confidence to tackle your resolutions, to feel and look good. Check our free relaxation and mindfulness MP3s or make contact with Susan at 01563 528801/ 07980849321.

Posted in: Coaching, Confidence, Happiness, Hynotherapy, Living the dream, Mindfulness, Motivation, Relaxation, Stress Management, Weight Control
January 1st, 2015 Share On Twitter Share on Twitter Share On Facebook Share on Facebook


Developing our business into China

In 2013 we expanded our Mind, Body and Wellness Consultancy into Shanghai, China.

 

Shanghai is an awesome city. The pace of growth is immense. I was going to say that the urban skyline has changed considerably over the last 20 years. Well, substitute 20 years for 5 years. Indeed I’m sure the new buildings were going up 2 levels a day! It is a centre of finance, trade and industry. Already over 20 million people live here and expanding. It is a modern city, with strong traditional roots but it is a city of change, ready to embrace the best of Eastern values with modern psychological approaches and ways of the West. It is probably the most cosmopolitan of Chinese cities.

 

Susan Chan and Associates at New Horizons are specialists in working with top executives and leaders to ease their stresses of high powered executive jobs. People, who despite success at a business and professional level, may feel stressed, with a poor work/ life balance. The mind and body may be out of harmony with a low level of personal happiness. These problems can result in decline in performance, relationships and wellness.

 

Shanghai, has its share of men and women, who are stressed and open to our approach. We blend NLP, Mindfulness principles and other modern psychological approaches in a holistic style. Our methods include workshops, one to one sessions and training backed up by downloads, CDs and our publications.

 

The Chinese market is challenging to enter. We found limited support available in Scotland. The problems encountered include language, culture, distance and costs. Following our success, we do offer workshops for individuals/ organisations who may wish an insight into the Chinese way of doing business.

 

We established trust and strong relationships with our Chinese associates. This is crucial. This takes time. We investigated the existing competition and businesses in our area. In Shanghai, there are plenty of hypnotherapists, NLP specialists as well as motivation coaches. Research indicated that there was a market, that there is a client base, there is money and an openness to embrace the new. We needed a brand and a unique selling point with appropriate courses and packages.

 

We established an accommodation base in the French Concession area, and met potential clients in a variety of venues, including private clubs, and Wellness Clinics/ Centres. The venues had to be premier class.

 

Our research indicated what was in demand. The potential clients were successful, confident and motivated. They were concerned about ‘Mind, Body, Wellness, Stress and Relationships.’

 

To establish trust (from our partners and other key people) we offered group workshops and individual consultations. We were delighted with the positive response from our partners and clients to our sessions. . We were not sure whether successful people would welcome workshops (they did) and whether language would be a barrier. It need not be. There was a level of understanding, but we also used fully briefed translators. We are also now learning Chinese!

 

In conclusion, our business, our style, approach, ethics and content can transfer to China. The perceived barriers of language, culture and distance can be overcome, with research, commitment, drive and marketing of a strong programme.

We return shortly to build on our client base and develop our relationships with the media.

 

Susan Chan and Ian Geddes

www.susanchan.co.uk

info@susanchan.co.uk

01563528801

 

 

 

Posted in: Coaching, Happiness, Mindfulness, Relaxation, Stress Management
January 8th, 2014 Share On Twitter Share on Twitter Share On Facebook Share on Facebook


Confidence, Coaching and NLP

Boosting your Confidence  with NLP                           by Ian Geddes and Susan Chan

Remember when you were about to sit your driving test? Or about to enter an examination room.  The positive power of the mind is so important. If all you visualise is failure, fear or rejection, then inevitably that is what will happen. You may feel happy one day. You meet up with a friend who sees everything in shades of black and grey. So what happens to your mood? You get dragged down. This short article concentrates on one step that you can take today to be more confident.

You have had many successes in life so far.  Create two lists now. One with your positive attributes, qualities, successes and achievements. Now make a list of your shortcomings or weaknesses. Which list was easier to create. 7/10 of our clients say it is easier to compile a negative list! Why are we so reticent about how good we can be? Here is a short list of some strengths that many people often forget about:- creative; calm; loving; good at listening; a good friend; honest; strong; good at dancing/ playing the guitar/singing/ driving/ being a parent; caring; funny; photography and so on.

How does it feel to celebrate your positive qualities? It feels good and you gain confidence about a job well done.

So identify an event or issue that is giving you some problems at the moment. It could be your image, or speaking in public or passing an exam.

Identify and think about how you would like your life to be 6 months from now.

What needs to happen to get to that point?

Identify and think about how you would like your life to be 1 month from now.

What needs to happen to get to that point?

What can you start to do today to shift your mind from negativity to be more positive?  One of our techniques that we often use is NLP, Neuro Linguistic Programming…. Neuro for what is going on in our minds, Linguistic about how we use language and Programming our patterns of behaviour.

NLP is about real life and becoming successful. It is about allowing you to get better at what you do.  It has a real, immediate and powerful impact. The path to personal excellence starts with you working out what you want. It can be personal, social, financial, relational, work related or anything.Remember an important issue with NLP.……. If you continue to do what you have always done, then nothing will ever change.
 

Posted in: Coaching, Confidence, Educational Motivation, Happiness, Motivation, Neuro Linguistic Programming, Passing Exams, Relaxation
September 6th, 2012 Share On Twitter Share on Twitter Share On Facebook Share on Facebook

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Personal and Business Coaching

Essential Principles for Personal and Business Development.   Ian Geddes and Susan Chan

We find an increasing number of harassed and stressed clients coming to us. To the outsider they may seem successful. It could be the nice car, the ‘good job’ or the nice house. However it may have come at a price. We are amazed by the number of people that we know who seem to be drawn deeper and deeper into their work.   ‘I go in a little early and stay until my desk is clear. Then I can go home without thinking about work’. We hear variations on this all the time. Our home is close to the Headquarters of a Council. The car park fills up from 07.00. (You may wonder why we are up at that time!…….walking the dogs!), and will often see some of the same cars there 12 hours later. Residents of Kilmarnock can sleep well knowing that the employees work long and hard for them. We work with individual clients who need to establish that elusive ‘work/ life balance’, as well as clients who see us as part of a company programme. Men and women who ‘burn out’, struggle both at home and at work. So what can we do? We use a variety of techniques, from Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP), relaxation and Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction (MBSR).

NLP is a sophisticated and effective force of change. It allows you to understand what makes you tick, how you feel, how you think and how you make sense of life around you. When you feel as if you are swimming through treacle, NLP awareness training can give you a magical  ‘aha’ moment. ‘Neuro’ relates to what is happening in our minds. ‘Linguistic’ refers to language and how we use it, and ‘Programming’ is about those persistent negative patterns of behaviour that we repeat without learning. Once you open up those channels in your mind, you will be able to make those decision, solve the problems, learn and get the results you want. You can combine this with techniques enabling you to relax and de-stress yourself. NLP is generally recognised as the key tool for personal and organisational change. You will find renewed energy so that you can cope with the work/ life balance that you want.

For several years we have also been promoting ‘Mindfulness’. This is now the ‘latest hot’  technique. We work with individual clients, small groups and business groups. We run workshops /experiential courses on MBSR as well as individual bespoke NLP and MBSR sessions.

We have written many articles on our Blog pages covering NLP, dealing with stress and Mindfulness , and you may find it useful to check back.

Give us a call so that you can chat with us and work out the solutions to your personal and business challenges. You actually have all the answers within yourself!

 

 

 

 

Posted in: Coaching, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, Mindfulness, Neuro Linguistic Programming, Stress Management
June 26th, 2012 Share On Twitter Share on Twitter Share On Facebook Share on Facebook

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Motivation, Confidence and Examination Performance at school (Part 2)

Motivation, Confidence and Examination Performance at school. (Part 2)

By Ian Geddes and Susan Chan

Thanks for coming back to read part 2! When I give motivation talks in schools to students, I am always heartened to see and listen to hard working, bright motivated students. However I often encounter students that are not motivated and often have very low levels of confidence.

‘I’m not very clever’.

‘History is too hard’.

‘Can’t pass exams’.

I have always regarded underachievement as a great shame. I try to tackle these negative views head on. If that is what is being said then the chances are that failure will follow. To me, the most important attributes to have when setting out to pass an exam are,

Motivation

Study Skills and techniques

Support from people around

Lots of visualisation

Practise. Practise. Practise.

There is lots of research available on the value of practise. If you put in the effort and the time, then the rewards will come.

So what are the second 5 key steps to increase motivation, confidence and performance?

  • Create a positive, fun, inspirational environment.

Never mock, compare, condemn or undermine what they have done. Respond openly and with patience. Find space to create a corner of inspiration. Give your child ownership of that space.

  • Mindfulness Techniques

Mindfulness is a new way of looking at an ancient eastern philosophy. It is so important to focus on what is happening now. What may have happened in the past is in the past. Think about what you are doing now. Focus on your breathing. Be alive and aware of your immediate task. Enjoy the experience. Accept that we cannot know everything. Adopt what is called the ‘beginner’s Mind’, and return to the basics renewed.

  • Improve levels of confidence and self esteem

Every child has experienced success at some time. Get them to visualise the feeling they had. Success may have been in sport, dance, a personal relationship, music, at a club or even passing a cycling proficiency test! Remind them how they felt and that they can recreate that feeling at any time. They can do anything they want to do and practise to achieve it.

  • Give them the skills and techniques to pass exams.

Reading. Writing. Note taking. Managing time. Strategies to improve the memory. Practise. Knowing the system. Planning. Being organised. Having a space. Support. Enthusiasm. There are good study books around for the various subjects. Check out the interactive study skill sites and get a really good study skill book such as, ‘How to Pass SQA Exams’, by Ian Geddes (Me!) Although supported by the examination body for Scotland, the content is valid for any examination system.

 

  • Overcome the fear and anxiety and learn to relax and thrive There is nothing worse than, after all the hard study, that your child walks into an exam and their mind goes blank. Nerves and anxiety get the better of and the brain stops working properly! This is a well-known phenomenon in psychology – known as state-dependant memory. The state you are in determines what you can remember. If you are in a very different state to when you learned, it is hard to recall things. If you are very anxious, your brain is simply in the wrong state for thinking! Hypnosis or deep relaxation can help to beat exam nerves, remember what you have practised and leave the person to respond with the sort of emotional response that will help performance. So in an exam, you need calmness tinged with a little excitement to give you that extra edge. A little stress actually improves memory and recall.

We hope that these tips will now give an edge when it comes to ‘Motivation, Confidence and Examination Performance at school’. If you want more information, contact Ian at New Horizons to discuss any aspect of these ‘Newsblogs’ and arrange an appointment.

 

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February 4th, 2012 Share On Twitter Share on Twitter Share On Facebook Share on Facebook

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Motivation, Confidence and Examination Performance at school. (Part 1)

Motivation, Confidence and Examination Performance at school

By Ian Geddes

Being a parent is always stressful. From birth until they hit 50! The years at school can be particularly full of concern. As long as we have exams, young people will often suffer from lapses of confidence and motivation. So what can you do? This two part blog will introduce you to some techniques, skills and approaches that will increase performance, motivation and confidence.

So what motivates you? Consider that for a moment. Research indicates that it varies. It may be the desire to achieve a target. It could be money. Or the good feeling that you get that comes with success. It may be linked to a dream. You may not want to let someone down.  Fear of failure. This article is not the place to talk about the limits of success. As a motivation coach and practitioner of NLP, I firmly believe that it is the individual that always sets the boundaries. If you fear failure or believe that you will fail, then inevitable, that is exactly what happens. If you go for a driving test, with negativity, then you will fail. If you always believe that the worst will happens, then inevitably it will happen. For me, having been a teacher, marker, writer of school text books and study skill books and question setter I recognise that success follows those people who know the system, revise and practise. Ask any student what do they need to do to pass their driving test, become better at the guitar or hit the ball further and straighter at golf? Answer? Visualise the experience and practise.

So here are the first 5 of my key steps to increase motivation, confidence and performance.

  • The carrot or the stick?

Always the carrot! Your children should learn about the importance of ‘deferred gratification’. Put in the effort now and reap the benefits later. Never compare one son /daughter with another one. So what makes them ‘tick’?                         Clothes? A game? Travel? Money?

This then can become a motivational drive. Admittedly not necessarily the best incentive but often very effective. We are aiming for ‘self motivation’, but inducements may help.

  • A healthy body and a healthy mind!

This starts early in the development of the child. However at stressful times it is even more important to get the balance right. A diet of pickled onion crisps and a gallon of American Cream Soda, will not be enough! Sleep. Exercise. Fluids. A nutritional diet. Social contact with friends. A routine

  • Surround them with images of success

Get images of inspirational people. Encourage stories of people who have made the most of their life and motivated others. These can be figures from the past or contemporary figures, whether taken from sport or business or the media. Successful motivational figures can inspire others to follow in their track. Search the web for inspirational quotes or posters or downloads. Let them know that they deserve success.

  • Visualisation

I really believe that it is important to think through what is in store. What will the future hold for them? How will it feel to pass the exam? How will they feel when they open the letter from the exam board with the results and see the pass? Get your son/ daughter to get to know the system. Imagine walking into the exam room, seeing the paper. Visualise the day.

  • Limits

There have to be limits. Sometimes the distractions can dig deep into the time and focus. It is always possible to gain the benefits from using technology in revision. There are good sites. Revising for exams should always have time built in for socialising, but negotiate and agree on those limits. Have a time limit for screen technology, whether it is the TV, a computer, a console or even a smart phone. Allocate time, separate from revising, for social media networking. Phones should not be a tempting distraction.

I hope that you found these tips and techniques useful. Part 2, will follow.

You may wish to consult book or sites that will provide additional advice. One book I would recommend is ‘How to Pass SQA Exams’. Whilst the SQA bit refers to the Scottish system, all the techniques and skills are generic. I recommend it, because I wrote it!

 

 

 

Posted in: Coaching, Confidence, Educational Motivation, Motivation
February 2nd, 2012 Share On Twitter Share on Twitter Share On Facebook Share on Facebook

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NLP, Confidence and Hypnosis for Public Speaking

NLP, Confidence and Hypnosis for Public Speaking

                By Ian Geddes and Susan Chan

We have worked with many clients who have a real fear and phobia about speaking in public. Such behaviour is learned. For example, the Head Teacher who dreads speaking to groups of parents, staff or even children. For many people a public performance, such as a presentation at work, at university, an interview or even a ‘vote of thanks’, can leave an otherwise confident person  reduced to a stammering, sweaty shadow! Not only does the speaker crawl with embarrassment, so does the audience. As Goffman would say, it is a ‘failed performance’. As NLP practitioners and clinical hypnotists, we need not concern ourselves too much with the precipitating cause.

What we need to establish is how the person feels and thinks when giving that performance. Does it affect your stomach, so you feel your skin becoming clammy, do you hear a voice telling you that you are rubbish, can you only visualise failure? Your brain has established a pattern that inevitably will result in failure. We use, what is referred to as ‘modern psychological techniques’ to alter the neurological pathway. We change your state of mind using a technique called NLP Meta Modelling. It works by reversing the neurological pathway. In a state of deep relaxation, we work with you and alter your state of mind when you are giving that public performance.  You need to practise this and make sure that it is reinforced and firmly embedded. It is possible to use our MP3 downloads to do this.

Posted in: Coaching, Confidence, Hynotherapy, Neuro Linguistic Programming, Stress Management
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