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Making a positive change through relaxation and visualisation by Susan Chan and Ian Geddes

Making Positive Change. Utilising the tool of relaxation and visualisation.

I remember a character called Eeyore out of ‘Winnie the Pooh’. He always sounded sad and he looked unhappy. Eeyore did not know what happiness and positivity would be like. So what about you? Does it affect how you think? Does it affect how you feel? If you give yourself time, peace and calm then a deeper tranquility will come and within this, answers. By the way, no matter what you think, you can effect a positive change. You are reading this now with what could be curiosity and that is a positive step. Now let your mind drift, taking yourself to a special place, where you can have calm, peace and space. Let your body relax and your mind will take you there. It you tune into your breathing, just a little slower, just a little deeper, creating space in a place of positivity. By asking yourself and by allowing yourself to go to a special place, your mind will present you with an answer. A wonderful book by Rick Hanson, entitled, ‘Buddha’s Brain’, suggests that so much of our body is built from what we eat and that our mind is built from all the experiences that we have. To a great extent the flow of what we experience, can have a way in which our brains and our minds shape up. Often we can recall different events. For example what we did last summer, or how it was to fall in love. Somehow most of what shapes our mind can stay locked in our unconscious and within this implicit memory it can hold many of our expectations, such as how we view relationships, even how we respond emotionally and our overall outlook. What is referred to as implicit memory hold the interior landscape within our minds. This includes how it feels to be you and that this can be built on a number of echoes from our past experience. In a way, some of those echoes are sorted into two piles, one that can help you and one that can harm you. So it is in our best interests to create, save and enhance the ones that are positive and let go of the others, that highlight the negative and harmful ones. As humans, there is a problem. We have a negative bias within our memory. The remedy is not to suppress negative experiences when they happen, they happen! Rather it is to foster positive experiences and in particular to take them in so that they become a more permanent part of you. Taking in the good, to help you in your positive change.

Posted in: Confidence, Happiness, Living the dream, Mindfulness, Neuro Linguistic Programming, Relaxation
December 4th, 2015 Share On Twitter Share on Twitter Share On Facebook Share on Facebook

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Being a woman is magic!

Susan Chan:    ‘Being a woman is magic!’ This is an exciting new  programme for change, health and well-being for women.

Do you wish to have more control of your weight and diet? To look good, feel good and sound good? What about being more confident? It is possible to radiate positive energy from within and let everyone know! The answers lie within you.

The programme has been devised by Susan, an award winning life coach and motivation therapist, using a combination of NLP, Mindfulness and hypnotherapy. If you are ready to make that change and ready to make the commitment then this is the programme for you.

Learn to make time for yourself. Learn how to relax. Find out your ‘special place’ where you can go to relax. Manage a real work/ life balance. You know that life can be so hectic. You need to offer yourself some kindness. learn how to clear out the old and bring in the new.

The programme is a self contained pack contained in a ‘flash drive’ and contains  a mixture of  materials  including  MP3 audio tracks on

Weight Control, Confidence, ‘Looking Good, Feeling Good’, Mindful Eating, Relaxation with Susan Chan, Work/ Life Balance, Social media, Addictions, 30 days to a new you, Radiate +ve energy,  Key elements of change, How to be happy

Plus, a number of unique sheets allowing you to monitor the creation of the ‘new you’, including coaching sheets, a self analysis of where you are now and where you want to go, moving on and an analysis of your strengths and weaknesses.

Plus, the opportunity to receive either face to face or Skype sessions

Often losing weight is far more than cutting down on what you eat, what you drink and by increasing the exercise you take. If it were that easy then there would be no need for all the books and magazine articles! It also involves an awareness of what is happening in the moment allowing you to make a change to stop those bad feelings from dragging you down.

Susan offers practical tools to transform and help you work towards setting individual personal goals with how you eat and look after yourself. Susan helps you to recognise and uncover these ingrained habits and guide you to find a part allowing you a transformation.

You can change your attitudes by having a commitment to change.

You deserve it and you are worth it!

 

 

 

 

 

Posted in: Confidence, Happiness, Motivation, Neuro Linguistic Programming, Relaxation, Stress Management, Weight Control
October 8th, 2013 Share On Twitter Share on Twitter Share On Facebook Share on Facebook


Ten tips to increase your confidence

Ten tips to increase your confidence in ten minutes by Ian Geddes and Susan Chan

1           Visualise yourself positively. Adopt a ‘switch’ approach. Imagine the old you in a small black and white, grainy   TV screen. Now the new you. You are now in a 42 inch HD screen. Switch between the 2 and settle on the big screen.

2          Change the way you look.  Hold your head up high. Be aware of positive body language and image. Smile. Think of something that has made you feel good.  Maintain that positive confident pose. Use your body. Walk tall.

3          Laugh, release some endorphins and feel better. Smile and rejoice in life.

4          Clear your mind. Meditate. Go into the zone. Refresh your mind and body. Focus on your breathing. Feel the        tension drain away to be replaced by a feeling of calm

5          Be mindful. Be still. Be aware of what you can hear, feel, taste, touch and smell. Enjoy the moment.

6          Be kind to yourself everyday. Buy flowers. Burn a candle. Soak in a deep bath. Feel good. You deserve it.

7          See yourself as the ‘you’ that you want to be. Visualise that you are jumping over 10 hurdles. Enjoy the feeling and confidence you gain as you flatten each of those barriers.

8          Make a list of your personal strengths, qualities and abilities. Look at it everyday. This is what makes you a ‘star’.

9          Visualise how you would like your life to be in one year from now. Start today to take those steps. Visualise the new you, whether it be the new you as rich, happy, thin, brave, loving or strong you.

10     Take time to practise the new skills that you need. Reflect on your performances. Note what worked well and what was not so effective. Practice and learn.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Posted in: Confidence, Happiness, Mindfulness, Motivation, Neuro Linguistic Programming, Relaxation, Stress Management
September 6th, 2012 Share On Twitter Share on Twitter Share On Facebook Share on Facebook

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Confidence, Coaching and NLP

Boosting your Confidence  with NLP                           by Ian Geddes and Susan Chan

Remember when you were about to sit your driving test? Or about to enter an examination room.  The positive power of the mind is so important. If all you visualise is failure, fear or rejection, then inevitably that is what will happen. You may feel happy one day. You meet up with a friend who sees everything in shades of black and grey. So what happens to your mood? You get dragged down. This short article concentrates on one step that you can take today to be more confident.

You have had many successes in life so far.  Create two lists now. One with your positive attributes, qualities, successes and achievements. Now make a list of your shortcomings or weaknesses. Which list was easier to create. 7/10 of our clients say it is easier to compile a negative list! Why are we so reticent about how good we can be? Here is a short list of some strengths that many people often forget about:- creative; calm; loving; good at listening; a good friend; honest; strong; good at dancing/ playing the guitar/singing/ driving/ being a parent; caring; funny; photography and so on.

How does it feel to celebrate your positive qualities? It feels good and you gain confidence about a job well done.

So identify an event or issue that is giving you some problems at the moment. It could be your image, or speaking in public or passing an exam.

Identify and think about how you would like your life to be 6 months from now.

What needs to happen to get to that point?

Identify and think about how you would like your life to be 1 month from now.

What needs to happen to get to that point?

What can you start to do today to shift your mind from negativity to be more positive?  One of our techniques that we often use is NLP, Neuro Linguistic Programming…. Neuro for what is going on in our minds, Linguistic about how we use language and Programming our patterns of behaviour.

NLP is about real life and becoming successful. It is about allowing you to get better at what you do.  It has a real, immediate and powerful impact. The path to personal excellence starts with you working out what you want. It can be personal, social, financial, relational, work related or anything.Remember an important issue with NLP.……. If you continue to do what you have always done, then nothing will ever change.
 

Posted in: Coaching, Confidence, Educational Motivation, Happiness, Motivation, Neuro Linguistic Programming, Passing Exams, Relaxation
September 6th, 2012 Share On Twitter Share on Twitter Share On Facebook Share on Facebook

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Personal and Business Coaching

Essential Principles for Personal and Business Development.   Ian Geddes and Susan Chan

We find an increasing number of harassed and stressed clients coming to us. To the outsider they may seem successful. It could be the nice car, the ‘good job’ or the nice house. However it may have come at a price. We are amazed by the number of people that we know who seem to be drawn deeper and deeper into their work.   ‘I go in a little early and stay until my desk is clear. Then I can go home without thinking about work’. We hear variations on this all the time. Our home is close to the Headquarters of a Council. The car park fills up from 07.00. (You may wonder why we are up at that time!…….walking the dogs!), and will often see some of the same cars there 12 hours later. Residents of Kilmarnock can sleep well knowing that the employees work long and hard for them. We work with individual clients who need to establish that elusive ‘work/ life balance’, as well as clients who see us as part of a company programme. Men and women who ‘burn out’, struggle both at home and at work. So what can we do? We use a variety of techniques, from Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP), relaxation and Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction (MBSR).

NLP is a sophisticated and effective force of change. It allows you to understand what makes you tick, how you feel, how you think and how you make sense of life around you. When you feel as if you are swimming through treacle, NLP awareness training can give you a magical  ‘aha’ moment. ‘Neuro’ relates to what is happening in our minds. ‘Linguistic’ refers to language and how we use it, and ‘Programming’ is about those persistent negative patterns of behaviour that we repeat without learning. Once you open up those channels in your mind, you will be able to make those decision, solve the problems, learn and get the results you want. You can combine this with techniques enabling you to relax and de-stress yourself. NLP is generally recognised as the key tool for personal and organisational change. You will find renewed energy so that you can cope with the work/ life balance that you want.

For several years we have also been promoting ‘Mindfulness’. This is now the ‘latest hot’  technique. We work with individual clients, small groups and business groups. We run workshops /experiential courses on MBSR as well as individual bespoke NLP and MBSR sessions.

We have written many articles on our Blog pages covering NLP, dealing with stress and Mindfulness , and you may find it useful to check back.

Give us a call so that you can chat with us and work out the solutions to your personal and business challenges. You actually have all the answers within yourself!

 

 

 

 

Posted in: Coaching, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, Mindfulness, Neuro Linguistic Programming, Stress Management
June 26th, 2012 Share On Twitter Share on Twitter Share On Facebook Share on Facebook

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Essential guidance for slowing down and being happier

Essential guidance for slowing down and being happier
By Susan Chan and Ian Geddes

Leisure by WH Davies
‘What is this life if, full of care,
We have no time to stand and stare’

Some people have noticed that time appears to pass faster as you get older. What seems to be a side effect of our busy pressurised lives is that, as WH Davies said, ‘we have no time to stand and stare.’ Increasingly we are unable to appreciate the pleasures of life at the moment, without thinking about what we have done, what we should have done and what we need to do. The source of much 21st century deep philosophical thought, (Homer Simpson) said, ‘Sometimes I sit and think, but mostly I just sit!’ That saying really appeals to me.

So are you ready for the New Horizons, Creative Solutions guide to, ‘Essential guidance for slowing down and being happier’? Be a rebel, and check your lifestyle and see if it can benefit from the application of the brakes.
• Do less. Focus on what is really important and what needs to be done. Let the rest go. Does it really matter if that report does not get completed today? Be realistic, who really cares!
• Be mindful. Focus on what is going on now. Not what might happen or an unpleasant thing that has happened.
• Seek your own company. Take time out and disconnect your mobile phone or electronic device. Otherwise you’ll always be available to be distracted, interrupted and at the mercy of others.
• People focussed. Remember what is really important. When you are with friends or family, be totally switched and connected to them
• Eat more slowly. Be mindful of every bite. Be aware of textures, colours, smells. Enjoy every mouthful.
• Slow down. When you are walking or driving, slow down and be aware of your surroundings. Make moving around calm and peaceful and enjoyable. Leave five minutes earlier rather than drive fast.
• Breathe slower and deeper. Take five minutes regularly, throughout the day to concentrate on the air coming into your body. As you focus on your breath, you slow down and become aware of the present.
• Find enjoyment in everything. Be content with what you have. Appreciate every moment, including task and chores.
• Single task. If you focus on one activity at a time, you can really be in the present. When you want, you can slow down, focus on breathing and switch to another thought or task. You can control your mind.
• Exercise your mind and body. Observe nature, the birds, the plants, the movement of water, the beauty of a mountain.

Be aware of all your senses. Feel the movement of the wind. See the colours of the flowers. Touch the flowing water. Hear the laughter of children. Smell the freshness pf the grass. Taste the sweetness of the food.

Be aware of what is called the ‘power of now’

Posted in: Happiness, Mindfulness, Neuro Linguistic Programming, Relaxation, Stress Management
January 18th, 2012 Share On Twitter Share on Twitter Share On Facebook Share on Facebook

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NLP and Happiness

NLP and Happiness

By Ian Geddes

I’ve given up listening to breakfast TV. The economy. Crime. The weather. Riots. War. Even making me feel guilty for not being ‘green enough’. I am not naïve and I know that I live in the ‘real world’. However, I want each day to start on a high, positive note. Each day should start exciting with the chance of a new beginning with opportunities to grow and enjoy. Each day gives you chance to live in the present and take in all the great things around you.

If you surround yourself with negativity then it can drag you down, if your reality is dominated by such thoughts, it will affect how you view your day, your relationships and your hopes. I was playing golf. Actually I was playing OK. I could feel the heat from the sun, the wind gently blowing across my face, I could smell the freshness of the cut grass and I could hear the sound of the waves lapping against the beach.

The guy I was with was having an awful day. He moaned and groaned. I found myself slipping from feeling good, and started to feel his anguish. So, I worked out ways to bring me back to your moment. Say to yourself about how you feel. My mood lifted, I continued to enjoy myself and even managed to lift the spirits of my golfing partner. He continued to play poorly, but no longer did it annoy him!

It is important in life to remind yourself of all the positives and affirmations of what is good. Make a list of the good feelings you have recently had. For example,

When you were totally relaxed

A good meal you had with a close friend

A creative moment and thought

When you enjoyed a walk or swim or a run

When someone told you that you look good

When you told someone that you loved them

If you have a chance, read the blog on the ‘New Horizons 10 point plan for a happier life

Have a good day. No have a great day!

Posted in: Mindfulness, Neuro Linguistic Programming
January 9th, 2012 Share On Twitter Share on Twitter Share On Facebook Share on Facebook

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NLP and Hypnotherapy for deep sleep

By Ian Geddes and Susan Chan

A refreshing sleep is priceless. It is a necessary and welcoming end to an exhausting day.  Sleep restores the body and mind. The norm for an adult is around 7 hours a night. Sleep takes place at 3 levels. REM or light sleep. (25%) Deeper sleep. (50%) Very deep sleep. (25%) When you sleep your body is processing your experiences from that day. Your muscles recover from the activities of the day. Problems can develop both getting to sleep and staying asleep. There are many causes of insomnia, including:  physical factors, social, habit, mental (stress anxiety)

So how does your body react to shortage of sleep?  Your body and mind will suffer in many ways, such as                  Fatigue                                Irritability             Accident prone                 Poor concentration         Forgetful               Dull                      Without energy

Under hypnosis we work on your subconscious mind. You remain in control at all times. By changing how your mind deals with issues, we can help you to re-programme it to be more receptive to long lasting changes as to how you think feel and behave. You will become calmer and open to the power of positive thought and suggestion. We work with many clients who come to us exhausted, dis-spirited and so frustrated that they lack the energy to do all the things that they want to do. As clinical hypnotherapists, what can we do? We use several techniques that may focus on what is preying on your mind or helping you to learn the principles of relaxation. We also have a number of MP3 downloads that contribute to a good night’s sleep. Using our techniques you may find it easy to relax by focussing on your breathing and visualising yourself in a ‘special place’.

Posted in: Educational Motivation, Hynotherapy, Neuro Linguistic Programming
October 5th, 2011 Share On Twitter Share on Twitter Share On Facebook Share on Facebook

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The Power of Positive Thinking

Authors Ian Geddes and Susan Chan

Paul McKenna says that ‘depending upon the meaning, we give to situations or events, we will feel and behave differently’. Your mind has a massive control and influence on what you think, what you do and how you feel. So is the glass half full or half empty? When using a modern psychological technique such as NLP and applying this with deep relaxation (hypnotherapy) you have the ability to change the way that you look at life, events and relationships. When you view something in a new more positive way, the term ‘reframe’, is used. The whole business of advertising is based on the power of getting you to view a product in a positive way, to get you to feel good about buying a product. Similarly, public relations, marketing and ‘spinning’ information and even the shopping experience all place emphasis on providing you with a relaxed, enjoyable environment or ‘frame’.

You are more likely to buy, be persuaded or convinced when you feel good.

We work with young people preparing for exams at school and university. They come to us stressed and anxious. Over a few sessions we can work on creating positivity. Through hypnotherapy we can help people to relax, regain confidence and view the future with a greater degree of personal control. Of course they still have to work hard to pass, but they know that success will come. The  power of positive thinking can also assist clients passing a driving test, lose weight and making that desired change.

So if you are feeling low or worthless, or fearful of failure then work with us to sharpen and tap into your mind and use the ‘power of positive thinking’ to get you moving forward towards being the person that you want to be.

4 top tips for positive thinking

Work on turning all negativity and thoughts into positive ones

Be kind about yourself. Value all your strengths

Adopt a ‘can do’ philosophy.  Give you best

Seek out positive and supportive people. Avoid those that rejoice in spreading misery

“Fear less, hope more; Eat less, chew more; Whine less, breathe more; Talk less, say more; Love more, and all good things will be yours” Swedish saying.

Posted in: Neuro Linguistic Programming
September 22nd, 2011 Share On Twitter Share on Twitter Share On Facebook Share on Facebook

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What happens during a clinical hypnotherapy session?

By Ian Geddes and Susan Chan

Our clients seem to be fascinated about the thought of being ‘hypnotised’. What happens during a session? We are clinical hypnotherapists using the subconscious mind to enable you to make the changes that you want to make. We are registered with the General Hypnotherapy Council and follow a code of professional practice. Do not confuse what we do with the stage show. There is nothing to be alarmed about. To understand the word, ‘hypnotherapy’, perhaps it may be helpful to think of you being in a stare of deep relaxation. At all times you remain aware of what is happening and your mind will keep you safe. You remain in control. So what happens? Once you have made an appointment with Susan or Ian, you will have time to establish rapport. We need to listen to what you are telling us. Often the initial phobia, confidence issue, addiction or concern will lead to deeper discussion and understanding. We note that you want to make that change. At this stage we discuss the possible programme. Hypnosis often combined with other modern psychological techniques (such as NLP/ Mindfulness/ CBT/EFT/EMS) is natural, quick and permanent. The number of sessions varies and is assessed accordingly and this will be agreed.

When you are in a state of deep relaxation, (a hypnotic state) the subconscious part of your brain is ready to be reprogrammed in a healthier or more desirable way. Remember, you choose to accept or reject the suggestions to allow that change to take place. It is your mind and you are always in control. There are several approached that we can use. We call upon all your senses. Sight. Taste. Touch.  Sound . Smell.  In the relaxed state you can visualise, imagine, look back, and look forward to the change in the future. You can break away from the old habits, addictions, tackle issues from insomnia to a lack of confidence and stress.

The power of the mind and the power of positive thinking, when reprogrammed can allow you to make the change that you want.  A session will come to a conclusion  by bringing you safely back from your state of deep relaxation. You will remember everything that happened and feel relaxed, so calm and good.

Sessions should not be dissected and over analysed by you. Hypnosis works. Usually you will be given some ‘homework’!

So if you want to make that change, take that decision to make the first step and act on it today by contacting us.

Posted in: Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, Hynotherapy, Neuro Linguistic Programming
September 22nd, 2011 Share On Twitter Share on Twitter Share On Facebook Share on Facebook

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